Guest post by Paul Cox, Solar Springs Life Coach
Many mums don’t allow themselves the luxury of switching off; however we need to view relaxing not as a luxury but as a necessity. Even taking just 5 to 10 minutes a day to relax can make a difference. We all relax and recharge in different ways. With that in mind here are 10 tips to quickly recharge – choose one and enjoy it!
1. Release. Take a pen and paper and write down your worries, your frustrations or any emotion you might be carrying around. Let it out onto the page. Effective stress management involves not just the ability to relax but also the ability to acknowledge feelings and release them.
2. Have some fun. When you have lots to do there is often a part of us that is craving some fun. You need to feed this part. Do something spontaneous that gives you a sense of enjoyment rather than just focusing on the next item on your to do list.
3. Meditate. Spend just 5 minutes meditating. You don’t have to get caught up in any complex methods or doing it perfectly (thoughts will pop in), simply follow your breathing in and out of your body, or as you exhale focus on a simple word such as ‘calm’. As thoughts come in, observe them and just return back to your breathing and/or word. Perform this as a daily ritual to get the subtle benefits that come from meditation.
4. Book yourself in. One of the ways to recharge mentally is to have something to look forward to. Take a few minutes out your day to schedule in a treat. It could be a massage, a manicure, a weekend away or a family holiday. Always have at least one thing to look forward to.
5. Acknowledge your efforts. Too often people get exhausted because they forever focus on the next thing to do, never satisfied with what they have done and expecting perfection from themselves. At least once a week, stop, and look back. Acknowledge what you have done, mentally pat yourself on the back and quietly acknowledge your achievements (nobody has to know). This is one of the ways to establish rapport with yourself and one of the ways to feed the ‘doer’ inside of you.
6. Do nothing. To get really good at relaxing you have to master the art of being lazy. This means scheduling some time in to do nothing, or to watch mindless T.V., or anything that is non-duty based and do to it without guilt. Often our energy comes from giving ourselves a deliberate rest (rather than waiting until we’re exhausted).
7. Relax the body. Take a few minutes to sit down comfortably at home and move your focus around your body. Notice the muscles around the eyes, the jaw, the neck and the shoulders, the stomach muscles and the arms and the legs. Allow your breathing to slow down a fraction. If your mind gets busy, just keep bring it back to your body. After a few minutes, open your eyes, coming back feeling refreshed.
8. Imagine. Choose a beautiful place to visit in your mind. It could be a beach, a garden, a tropical island, wherever you prefer. You’re only limited by your own imagination. Step into this place and explore it, take a walk, leave your worries behind, just be there and savour the experience. Utilise your senses. Notice what you can feel, hear, smell and see – make it as vivid as you can. Bring yourself back after a few minutes with a new perspective.
9. Be creative. Some people recharge by performing an activity that involves creativity. This is not for everybody but for some mums who are busy raising children, there may have a need to get their suppressed creative juices flowing. It may be writing, art, music, or simply doing an everyday activity differently. Breaking the normal routine can stimulate the brain and add spice to life.
10. Move your body. Mediation is not for everybody; in fact for some people exercise is their ideal way to relax. Performing a short burst of exercise such as a quick walk around the block, or even a fun physical activity with your children can be a great way to feel recharged.
About Paul Cox, Solar Springs Life Coach
Dip.Counselling, Dip.Clinical Hypnotherapy, NLP Practitioner, Cert IV Training and Assessment.
Paul has been a Life Coach, Counsellor, Hypnotherapist and Trainer since 1995, assisting people to achieve their goals, overcome obstacles and find balance in their lives. Paul has been the Life Coach at Solar Springs since 2006, as well as conducting the meditation classes on a weekly basis. As a trainer, Paul works with both Government and private organisations, specialising in using brain-based strategies to deliver workshops in Speed Reading, High Performance Memory and Study Skills, Stress Management and Business Communication.