1. Please tell us a bit about yourself and your Business. How did it all start?
I think that sitting in the dark recesses of our minds there is always a little idea that you hope will grow big one day. I’ve been working in the trauma and loss field since I was in my mid twenties and I’ve met so many people across three different countries who struggle with the sadness of losing someone. Back in 2007 I was researching the experiences of families of missing people for a book I was writing for the Australian Federal Police – I met a sister whose brother was missing and she explained to me that her life existed in the space in between. Between him being both here and gone. That conversation has always stayed with me and I as I grew older, had kids of my own, got divorced and then married again I found that offering support to people who live in all types of spaces was what drove me to building a counselling practice and starting my post-graduate studies.
We all live in different spaces – as women, as mums, as partners, as friends – finding ways to manage those spaces can only do good things for our mental health.
2. What do you offer as a mentor in your working mum mentoring sessions?
I’m the mental health mentor (I feel like that should come with a cape!). My goal is to help women manage the space between work and home by focussing on their psychological wellbeing, by exploring the triggers to anxiety and stress, to understand the impact of being over-stretched on how we think and feel and to find new ways to nurture ourselves.
I’m an accredited Medicare Social Worker and have worked and managed counselling services for the last decade. As a Counsellor and a mother of two, and a step-mum of two more, I feel ready to give back to those that want my help.
3. What are your top 5 tips for any busy mum?
– Its easy to say take time for yourself, finding that time can be hard. Even just a small moment where you get to step away, take a breath and centre yourself can keep your stress in check.
– Put your hand up and ask for help when it all feels too hard. The superwoman myth was exploded long ago – dont perpetuate it by the stigma that comes with asking for support.
– There is a negative association attached to the word mental health, even when we talk abut it positively, think about your mind the same way as the body, feed it well, take time out for it and be gentle with yourself.
– Exercise can settle a busy mind – take the kids for a walk before dinner, go for a stroll in your lunch break. Being out in the world helps keep your perspective grounded.
– We only get one life to live, having it ‘all’ will mean different things to different people. Respect that.
4. Do you have any advice or inspiration to send out to any of our readers that are thinking about starting their own business or doing more of something they love???
I used to supervise social work students on their last placement before enterng in to the workforce. Ive always been passionate about giving your best to every job you do, I firmly believe that if you build a platform from a place of passion and dedication you can not go wrong. I’m not a business woman but I know that I’m good at what I do and I genuinely care about other people, for me that is all part of the recipe for success – no matter how you measure it.
5. If you had half an hour to cook dinner and realised you didn’t have anything planned, what would you cook?
Poached eggs and pan fried mushrooms. You cant go wrong with breakfast as dinner…my kids would agree too!
6. What’s your favourite juice or smoothie?
I’m not a big fan of smoothies or juices but coffee. Dont get me started…
7. What is your favourite live by affirmation, mantra or quote?
‘Everything will be alright in the end, if its not alright then its not the end’ from the Best Exotic Marigold Hotel.
When work and parenting feel too heavy I always remember this quote – helps me keep my head above water and to take another step forward.
8. Where can we find you?
My counselling practice is based in Sydney but I offer telephone and skype sessions too for those people further away. People can find me at www.sarahwayland.com.au or I’m usually hanging out at my blog www.thatspaceinbetween.com
My twitter handle is @thatspaceinbtwn